i am pertty upset

[thenewguy8t88]

my "friends" suck big time urgh they are people who think they are better then everone else, and somehow they mange to be. they are people that dont care about me they only say they do. idk why and they enjoy putting me down and proving me wrong all the time....plus they say they are diffrent from most people when in fact the 2 girls i know are porably the biggest strero types of chicks i have ever met.....which is lame cuz i think they are proud of it..... anyways they treat me like i am not worth it as they feel like it dose not matter that we have not even met.......and like they cant stand not too meet one another at least once a week.....and plus they always seem to be encouring me to get my hopes up......or whenever it seems like i have done something fun they always ruin it for me.... weather or not they do it on purpose i do not know.....i dont think they do but they dont realazie they are doing i dont even think they can comperhaed the fact that they upseting me because they think they are perfect and cant make mistakes...

[thenewguy8t88]

i know this may sound a bit strange but i actully think they make me sick litrealy...... and i think its unhelthly for me to talk to them or even think about them.......

[Done-With-It!]

[quote=thenewguy8t88]my "friends" suck big time urgh they are people who think they are better then everone else, and somehow they mange to be. they are people that dont care about me they only say they do. idk why and they enjoy putting me down and proving me wrong all the time....plus they say they are diffrent from most people when in fact the 2 girls i know are porably the biggest strero types of chicks i have ever met.....which is lame cuz i think they are proud of it.....

Being proud of 'who they are' Imagine that! Your being just as judgemental as they are.

anyways they treat me like i am not worth it as they feel like it dose not matter that we have not even met.......and like they cant stand not too meet one another at least once a week.....and plus they always seem to be encouring me to get my hopes up......or whenever it seems like i have done something fun they always ruin it for me....

You ruin it for yourself, no one has control of your feelings.


weather or not they do it on purpose i do not know.....i dont think they do but they dont realazie they are doing i dont even think they can comperhaed the fact that they upseting me because they think they are perfect and cant make mistakes...

Your friends upset you because you let them. You choose to continually be upset by them over and over and over again. What do you expect.

INSANITY: DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS.


What do you expect anyone of us here to tell you?
What we have tried to tell you, you don't even listen to us
anyway.
You choose these friends that you know are going to belittle you,
complaining about them is not going to change a thing.
Until you take some responsibility for your own actions
nothing is going to change.

I think this is something for you that is similiar to someone
addicted to drama, pain, drugs, etc.
until you hit some kind of bottom and get sick and tired of
being sick and tired, your going to keep on going back for
more. We can't make you stop, only you can do that.

[heather]

Then why are you around them?! You have said things like this before, and it sounds so terrible. They are so rotten to you. You deserve better!! You need to ask yourself why you stick around with them. What do you see in these people? What do you think they see in you? What do you want them to see in you? Just stuff like that. Some people are drawn into abuse relationships, like a subconscouse masicism type desire. Please try to get away from them! Is being subjeted to them as bad as trying to start over getting new friends or being alone?
It acctually sounds better to me. You still have your dignity. But, It is your choice, please help yourself out. You are worthy of better! You can get out of it. Stand up for yourself. I believe in you. You can always talk to me. Good luck.

[annihilate_me]

Originally Posted by Done-With-It!

INSANITY: DOING THE SAME THING OVER AND OVER AGAIN AND EXPECTING DIFFERENT RESULTS.

I have to over-stress what DWI has said. We've given you enough advice, and you have never came back with any other results!!! Have you even attempted giving our advice a shot? Why are you still in the same situations if you don't like being in them? YOU ARE IN CONTROLL OF YOUR LIFE!!!!!!

[Velvet]

It's very simple, as explained before. If you have "friends" that belittle you and make fun of you, then they aren't your friends. Find some new friends.

[icthus77]

hey hun listen and this time i mean really listen i dont want to be rude b/c i am not that way but like they all have sais we have tired to help u and u come back complaining again about ur friends. friends dont do that to each other not real friends anyway. i know u are probably trying to hang on to the only thing u feel is friendship but honestly i dont think u know what true friendship is. well let me define it for u. friendship is not selfish and not rude. it is not backstabbing and prideful. but it is full of love an dcompassion for the other ppl involved. now hanging out with these ppl may not be the bes thting for u but even so show them how to be friend even if u arent around them. just be there for them. however we cant help u if u are not willing to help urself. love ya and take care. and plz plz listen. that the key to solving things

[dont cry for me]

i hope you listen to peoples advice here

they probably dont know the effect they have on you, and telling them might not help the situation

the only thing you can do is leave them, but explain to them why youre leaving them

dont necessarily expect anything to change, but explain to them that theyv made you feel like this... and hopefully they wont do it to anyone else

xxx

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by dont cry for me

i hope you listen to peoples advice here

they probably dont know the effect they have on you, and telling them might not help the situation

the only thing you can do is leave them, but explain to them why youre leaving them

dont necessarily expect anything to change, but explain to them that theyv made you feel like this... and hopefully they wont do it to anyone else

xxx

Personally I wouldn't even bother with an explanation. For some reason it's hard enough to step out of these people's lives as it is. I would take my diginity just leave. If they are as bad as he says they are in the past then it's bullying, and they deserve no explanation. At this point he shouldn't be worried about how they are going to treat any one else, the only one he really needs to be concentrating on is himself. He keeps going back for more abuse every time, going to say goodbye in a way would just be another excuse for more.
What would be the benefit to him to say goodbye? To go and get belittled again is not going to help.

they probably dont know the effect they have on you, and telling them might not help the situation

Like you said here, I think saying bye to them would also have no effect on them.

Number one rule is to always take care of #1 first, and that is yourself.
Everyone else comes next.

Just my opinion and a different point of view DCFM, yours is a good suggestion also. Just playing devils advocate here.

[dont cry for me]

Originally Posted by Done-With-It!

Personally I wouldn't even bother with an explanation. For some reason it's hard enough to step out of these people's lives as it is. I would take my diginity just leave. If they are as bad as he says they are in the past then it's bullying, and they deserve no explanation. At this point he shouldn't be worried about how they are going to treat any one else, the only one he really needs to be concentrating on is himself. He keeps going back for more abuse every time, going to say goodbye in a way would just be another excuse for more.
What would be the benefit to him to say goodbye? To go and get belittled again is not going to help.



Like you said here, I think saying bye to them would also have no effect on them.

Number one rule is to always take care of #1 first, and that is yourself.
Everyone else comes next.

Just my opinion and a different point of view DCFM, yours is a good suggestion also. Just playing devils advocate here.

no i actually think i agree with you lol... ye ignore my post lol done's right it is bullying and they dont deserve your friendship or an explanation