i need advice

[thenewguy8t88]

ok basicly i am worried that somehow someone is going to convince to me give in into something i dont want to do and well it wont be simple since people are learning i wont just do something anymore they going to trick me not sure how they will but i am sure they will, they already have tricked me i manged to say they came up with a scheme a few days latter that i should have seen a mile away but did'nt and it cost me i did not drink or anything like that i just gave a 150$ to that girl agian somehow she tricked me into doing it and others have tircked me into giving them money and other things. anyways though i just need to know what to do how can i not give in to something i dont want to do when it just gets shown to me at the last second. like i find out it was all trick when its too late. how can i avoid those situations and or get out of them.

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by thenewguy8t88

ok basicly i am worried that somehow someone is going to convince to me give in into something i dont want to do and well it wont be simple since people are learning i wont just do something anymore they going to trick me not sure how they will but i am sure they will, they already have tricked me i manged to say they came up with a scheme a few days latter that i should have seen a mile away but did'nt and it cost me i did not drink or anything like that i just gave a 150$ to that girl agian somehow she tricked me into doing it and others have tircked me into giving them money and other things. anyways though i just need to know what to do how can i not give in to something i dont want to do when it just gets shown to me at the last second. like i find out it was all trick when its too late. how can i avoid those situations and or get out of them.

I am not really sure since we don't really know exactly what you are talking about.

But you were just talking to us about intelligence. To me, I would just not ever give out $150.00 to someone at the "last second" if I wasn't positive.
I'm the kind of person who would the shirt off my back to a real friend, but I know who my real friends are, and would only do it if "I knew for sure" in any other situation.

I gave a dollar away to a guy outside 7-11 the other day who needed it for food. Did he "Really" need it for food? I dunno, but he was so sweet.
Was I being tricked? Maybe. But it was a dollar.
Not $150.00.... and I skipped the drink I was going to buy for myself, so I wasn't out anything. I waited till I got home to get some water.

If Chy or another best friend called me and needed $150.00 yes I'd give it to them because I would "Know" they needed it.

If my boss @ work need 20 bucks, of course I would give it to him, I know him well, and I would get it back.

Each situation in life, you have to ask yourself, What's going on here?
Who is this person "To Me", who are they in my life?

Does this person care about me? Do they care about my feelings? Do they care if they screw me over? Does it matter to them?

For me, those questions usually take a half a second. Maybe for you, you need to actually take your time, and figure out why this person is asking you for money. You have people in your life who aren't trustworthy.
If I were you, I would have an automatic response of NO.

It wasn't that long ago you couldn't find a bus pass home, or money for one. So how or why you are able to be giving out $150.00 to people, a kind of insanity.

You are the one who is letting yourself get screwed over.
You are the one who HAS TO MAKE IT STOP.

Time to take a look at your own intelligence and stop worrying about everyone else's.

Not trying to be mean, but this is the same story you had a year ago.
When are you going to get sick and tired of being sick and tired.
You can't change yourself, make yourself better by worrying about everyone else. Take a deep look into yourself and ask yourself why you
keep allowing people to take advantage of you, YOU an intelligent guy.

[Chy]

I'm glad to see you!

Honey, you can't be tricked into giving money, you either hand it over of your own free well no matter what the reason or you say no and don't.

HOW much more of a sucker are you going to be to this biotch?????

I'd slap ya if you were my kid! LOL


Don't give the ***** ANY MORE MONEY, DON't DO IT!!! Otherwise don't complain about it everytime you get burned! You must be a real sucker for punishment... okay scolding over! LOL

[thenewguy8t88]

well i think i have learned my lession untill she comes up with a new way to tick me lol because it seems like every time i learn how to say no she comes up with something new.

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by thenewguy8t88

well i think i have learned my lession untill she comes up with a new way to tick me lol because it seems like every time i learn how to say no she comes up with something new.

And she will continue to do so, as long as you let her. Sounds like you are already waiting for her next move.

You are getting something out of giving her money, or you wouldn't do it.

We do things because we get something out of it. So what do you get out of this?

[thenewguy8t88]

serously idk i may just enjoy getting screwed over or may just want to see if i am smart enough to outsmart her lol

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by thenewguy8t88

serously idk i may just enjoy getting screwed over or may just want to see if i am smart enough to outsmart her lol

Getting "Screwed Over" allows you to be the "Victim" or you like to think/feel that way anyway. Something to think about......

Re asses, think about what you want in your life and make a new choices.

[*silenced*]

Only you can screw yourself over.
Ok, this isn't something I'm proud of, but I've been that girl you are talking about a few times, more than a few, convincing people to give me money and it's easier than it sounds. I know the 'tricks' and the cons, and I can tell you it didn't work with guys who knew who they where and knew that they woulnd't let some girl screw them over. You don't have to be that sucker. I know many ways of perswading a man to give me money, some more moral than others, but I remember trying it on a few guys who just knew what I was up to, who where not controlled by their libido or will to fall to something they knew was just bs or those guys who could just see right through me or not controlled by wanting to be a victim.
You can stand up to anyone and I respect the guys who don't give me money to be honest, you are under no obligation to this girl. Take control and responsibility for yourself.

[Endorphin]

idk..how can you even get tricked into giving anyone money lol. i meanive loaned money to some pretty suspicous girls before but i usually got paid back just cause i didn't ***** up an easyly give my money away and i made it clear they were going to pay me back. You can't do that so id just tell her to **** off. its easy TWO WORDS!! SAy it with me now, "Fuuck Off" Even add a bish in there if theres people around even better make fun of her for not being able to support her self and relying on other fools to do it for her. Maybe its just me but i never can just leave somethin alone i like to put people in there place forever.

[Chy]

Hey newguy how's it going?