Anyone have a social phobia?

[BM <3]

I have noticed recently just how socially disabled I am.
I avoid situations where I may have to be thrown into an in depth conversation.
I even sometimes avoid people at work that I know I may have to talk to or don't even want to be around.
Sometimes the thought that people think I'm an idiot eats away at me.

My mom reckons this is what being a teenager is and that nearly everyone is self concious and insecure but hardly any of my friends are like this?

One of my best friends is a year younger than me and would even pee in the street cos she doesn't care what people think. Whereas I won't even leave the house sometimes if I feel like I look too bad.

Is this just me or can anyone else relate? How do I stop being such a pathetic dweeb?
I wish I was more confident.

[Chy]

Oh heck no, I'm the same at 48 years old.. I prefer my alone time. I hate crowds and shopping and malls, I don't like to have to pretend converse with anyone, my husband hates it and thinks I'm a snob, there are very few people I just like being around and have always been a loner... and I'm pretty happy most days. Crowds =anxiety attack for me.. yet I'm a teacher in high school, go figure. LOL Ask Done, she can attest to that, when I was out visiting her last summer she took me to what most average people would consider the greatest shopping place on the planet, I was like a freak hurry up and wiz through as she dawdled enjoying herself, LOL. I had rolling panic all day.

I will add however, if you don't like being this way, find a niche you like and join up, it's much easier being around people when you have a common interest.

[BM <3]

Yeah I'm definatly the same. I love to go shopping but I hate going if I know it's going to be crowded with people.
This is also why I mainly avoid concerts and festivals etc.
I am SUCH a loner it's not funny. I prefer to do everything on my own or with my mom.
I don't even like being 1 on 1 with some people.
I'm also extremely claustrophic. Being on a packed train or bus makes me go crazy. I have nearly fainted a couple of times because I can't stand being surrounded by people.
I swear, I'm a total nut case lol.

[annihilate_me]

Oh I know how that is. You don't know how many times I've avoided answering my phone because I don't recognize a number on caller ID, or how many times I've used my debit card at the gas pump to avoid a cashier. It's crazy to actually reflect on your anxieties and you think how childish you think you're being. Needless to say, I've made my share of friends, but I know it's difficult.

You're not pathetic, and you sure are not a dweeb. It's a legitimate fear, and you shouldn't be ashamed of that. Yes; it can interfere with life--a lot, but you can also help yourself by slowly introducing yourself to new people, places and things.

[BM <3]

Yess! I pretty much never answer my phone and I avoided calling customers for work for MONTHS when I first started.

I am so socially awkward lol I hate being the centre of attention in a large conversation.

I think it does just get better as you get older, some people are different though.
My sister used to be extremely shy and I was the outgoing one, now it's all turned around haha.

[Done-With-It!]

Oh Gawd, I could take some lessons from you all.... I am not socially afraid at all. My ADD goes a bit haywire at times in crowds and my heads feels like it is going to explode. But I love to be around people.


lol, yea Chy did not have fun that day. I did though.



Britt, maybe as you become more comfortable with yourself and who you are, you may become more comfortable. My cousin was extremely shy when we were young, she kind of outgrew it a bit.

[BM <3]

Originally Posted by Done-With-It!

Britt, maybe as you become more comfortable with yourself and who you are, you may become more comfortable. My cousin was extremely shy when we were young, she kind of outgrew it a bit.

Yeah that's true. But like, how much longer is this gonna take? lol I'm nearly 20 for crying out loud.
I'm anxiously awaiting for the day when I don't pee my pants when a boy talks to me lol.

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by Brittany-Marie

Yeah that's true. But like, how much longer is this gonna take? lol I'm nearly 20 for crying out loud.
I'm anxiously awaiting for the day when I don't pee my pants when a boy talks to me lol.

When you are talking to them, sing in your head silently,
My Milkshake brings all the boys to the yard, Damn right
better than yourz.....

[Done-With-It!]

oh and picture then naked.......

Fear=POOF

[BM <3]

Originally Posted by Done-With-It!

oh and picture then naked.......

Fear=POOF

I don't understand why everyone says that lol. It's never made me feel any better. If anything, I would just laugh at the thought of someone being randomly naked in front of me. Then that would get me thinking of their willy. EWWW.
Haha

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by Brittany-Marie

I don't understand why everyone says that lol. It's never made me feel any better. If anything, I would just laugh at the thought of someone being randomly naked in front of me. Then that would get me thinking of their willy. EWWW.
Haha

lol, I don't know but.. that both of those, tend to make me laugh.

I think because seeing people with their clothes off takes their power away, which actually is probably a very unhealthy thing or way to go about it.
But sometimes twisted things work for me, lol...

I have a pretty good imagination so I can usually imagine all kinds of things without having to go so far as taking their clothes off.

The only people I usually let get the best of me are friends, I don't usually give a damn what strangers think, I have a hard time with people I care about, and those people I can't picture naked... lol , Nor would it work.
Maybe living in a convent would be easier... I'd be the only
nun with a Pink outfit on. Singing like Whoopi

[annihilate_me]

Originally Posted by Done-With-It!

Maybe living in a convent would be easier... I'd be the only
nun with a Pink outfit on. Singing like Whoopi

Haha. I love Sister Act. Such a cute movie!

[Chy]

I'd be the only
nun with a Pink outfit on. Singing like Whoop

Omg.. I can so see that...

[Joe]

I've always been the opposite. I feel really awkward in groups of people and so I talk too much in order to fill in gaps in conversation. I feel like if people get bored it's my fault or something.

So it makes me really annoying and talkative in groups of people I don't know, and often with people I do. Otherwise, besides the fact that lots of people think I'm eccentric, I'm pretty much fine. Eccenticity makes the world go 'round anyway

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by Chy

Omg.. I can so see that...

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by Joe

I've always been the opposite. I feel really awkward in groups of people and so I talk too much in order to fill in gaps in conversation. I feel like if people get bored it's my fault or something.

So it makes me really annoying and talkative in groups of people I don't know, and often with people I do. Otherwise, besides the fact that lots of people think I'm eccentric, I'm pretty much fine. Eccenticity makes the world go 'round anyway

Oh hell I never feel responsible for people's conversations. No way, no how. lol

[BM <3]

Originally Posted by Done-With-It!

The only people I usually let get the best of me are friends, I don't usually give a damn what strangers think, I have a hard time with people I care about, and those people I can't picture naked

See I'm the total opposite. I am more self concious and aware of what strangers think of me than my friends. First impression is everything so I'm always scared that I won't succeed like that..

[Done-With-It!]

Originally Posted by Brittany-Marie

See I'm the total opposite. I am more self concious and aware of what strangers think of me than my friends. First impression is everything so I'm always scared that I won't succeed like that..

I guess if things are normal with my friends then I'm fine. It's just when things are weird with my friends, which isn't very often, then I worry.
I don't know I guess I am thinking of certain instances instead of in general.

In general, I don't worry to much..... or if/when I do, it's easy for me to push it out of my head.... lol, actually thinking about it, it's easy for me to turn it around on them if need be, or just let it go.

I am afraid of needles and IV'S though, oh and lol, Paps that tell birthdates. Like I have phobias of those. I lie to get out of them, cuz I pass out at a needle.

[BM <3]

Originally Posted by Done-With-It!

I guess if things are normal with my friends then I'm fine. It's just when things are weird with my friends, which isn't very often, then I worry.
I don't know I guess I am thinking of certain instances instead of in general.

In general, I don't worry to much..... or if/when I do, it's easy for me to push it out of my head.... lol, actually thinking about it, it's easy for me to turn it around on them if need be, or just let it go.

I am afraid of needles and IV'S though, oh and lol, Paps that tell birthdates. Like I have phobias of those. I lie to get out of them, cuz I pass out at a needle.

Yeah that's true! Haha I'm **** scared of needles. I can't do like immunisations but tattoo needles are fine cos they don't go past the skin.

[Done-With-It!]

Any kind of needles are not okay with me. They have to give me baby needles when I have to get stuff done and still, I freak out...... I'm such a baby..
but my veins collapse and roll and whatever else, so I'm like a damn human pin cushion.
It's terrible, I scream and cry and jump out of my chair, and beg and plead with them no more, and end up having to be held down. It's quit the ordeal every time. It's horrible. Unless every so often I get someone who is really good...... then i cry because they are so good, and I'm like OMG, OMG, OMG!! YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND,
and they are like I told ya I was good.... lol