What would it take you

[Done-With-It!]

To stop self harming or cutting yourself?


What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?


What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?


What makes it worse? or triggers you?


What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?

[Velvet]

Good questions, Done. I think I'll stick around and read some answers.

[annihilate_me]

To stop self harming or cutting yourself?
It would take me a while to get over the fact that I really don't need self harm to deal with my problems.


What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?

I would feel extrememly overwhelmed, and would have to eventually find ways to deal with what ever is going on...



What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?

Talking to friends, writing in my journal/blog, taking a hot shower, generally not being alone.



What makes it worse? or triggers you?

Stress, Arguments, lonilness, Depression, sometimes music.



What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?

I personally wouldn't try to make them stop cutting, but I would try to help them...

[*silenced*]

What would it take you

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To stop self harming or cutting yourself?
To stop, I think that the reasons I cut would have to be solved. It is a way of coping with pain for me, if I were happy, I could'nt feel the need to cut. Or if I felt the need to, I just don't at the moment, what are the reasons to quit? I can see some, but none of which that covince me enough.


What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?
I would survive of course. I just wouldn't be able to cope with emotions and situations in the same way. It's almost like drugs, I'm learning to cope with just living without drugs, if I were to stop cutting I would need to find a different way of coping with life.


What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?
Love from people. Support. I cut when I'm alone and I've no other options but than to cut. When I have someone to talk to, to cry on someone shoulder and someone to tell me that it's going to be ok, some type of help or love, I don't need to cut then. That's whats helped me.

What makes it worse? or triggers you?
Memeries and flashbacks, because no one can make them go away, even me. It's like everything that has happened is haunting me and there is no running away, it's totally in MY head, and cutting kind of releases some of it somehow. Blood and stuff triggers me, talking about it dosn't at all, it makes me not like it. S'weird.

What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?
I'd talk to them about it. And I'd ask them why they were cutting because I'm a firm believer in that everyone has reasons to cutting themselves, even if they do not know it themselves. And if you help that problem or solve the thing making them depressed/scared/self hatred...etc then the want to SI is much less I think.

I think SI is a way of coping, like drinking, taking drugs, hurting other people, shouting or yelling at other people. They all help people cope, when you have a bad day, you might shout at someone and some people even take it out physical on others. Well, I cut instead, I just recon, I've hurt enough people in my life, I'd just rather hurt myself, its just easier.

[Lindor]

To stop self harming or cutting yourself?
I think I'd need to get over all the junk that's happened in my life. Until I can just get over it I don't think I'll ever get rid of the urge.


What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?
Hmmmm.... It'd probably drive me absolutely crazy for a long while. I'm sure I'd re-adjust, but it'd take a long time.


What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?
Thinking about how much I want my friend to be proud of me really helps more than anything. And little motivations... like the gorgeous Dolce & Gabbana shirt I bought myself last week... I really wanna be able to wear it without feeling self-conscious about my arms.


What makes it worse? or triggers you?
Erm... guilt, like if I do something that I think really inconveniences one of my closest friends, or hurts or upsets them at all. My dad can also be a major trigger sometimes. Or just memories, flashbacks, or numbness and depersonalization. Or just feeling down. Cutting forces my first aider instincts to take action and takes my mind off it.


What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?
Just by being there for them and being understanding. Trying not to seem disappointed if they slipped, and letting them know there's nothing wrong with stumbling.

[dont cry for me]

To stop self harming or cutting yourself?

hopefully finishing school... but if not then something happening in my life that would replace all the bad feelings... not sure what though

What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?

i dont know id imagine all the feelings would build up until i eventually did something id regret... or id just end up crying or taking my anger out on someone else

What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?


talking to my friend or just distracting myself with tv or something until the feeling passes... but tbh nothing really stops me anymore


What makes it worse? or triggers you?

getting angry at someone, or arguing... or looking at old scars

What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?

i wouldnt try to stop them... i think id just not mention it because its up to them to tell me about it and id help them if they wanted me to



thanx for posting this

[proud.2.be.me]

what would it take...

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To stop self harming or cutting yourself?
I think the only thing that would stop me, is if i had to choose cutting or someone really important to me. If someone gave me that ultimatum, i would choose that person.

What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?
I would have to find something else to cope with my pain, which i havnt had luck with in the past. Cutting makes me feel in control and there is nothing else that makes me feel like cutting does.

What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?
Like i said before, an untimatum, or sometimes my mom.. she has the knowledge and always gives me the right adive.


What makes it worse? or triggers you?
Definitley flashbacks, honesty.. i hate the truth., guilt for sure, or when i know that im getting run over, that people take advantage of me and i hate it.. and theres nothing i can do.. and the biggest one, abuse. and i will leave it at that.

What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?
Thats a good one and to be honest, my little sister cuts.. she is only 12 years old and it totally burns a hole on me.. i hate seeing it.. i see her scars and i know that there isnt anything that i can do. I know her pain, i share her pain. And i would be a hypocrite to say nething to her.. all i can tell her is that i love her, and she is amazing.. honestly she is.. i look up to her for so many reasons. I tell her that i will ALWAYS be here for her and i know that, that is the ultimate best that i can do.

Great post by the way. Thanks.

[Done-With-It!]

These are Great answers!!!~~ You all have ALOT of good stuff to say!!!

[Done-With-It!]

[recoveringcutter]

To stop self harming or cutting yourself?
i don''t want to have scars for the rest of my life and have to explain to my childern what they are from

What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?

i'd find differnt things to do to keep me busy

What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?

the love and support of my friends

What makes it worse? or triggers you?
nothing really.. but it will have to be really bad or triggering to make me trigger

What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?

i will tell them my story of how i went throught cutting and how it almost oke over my life

[2jules7]

I know this is a pretty old thread, but I like the questions. They arent ones you can answer right away, they require thought. I havent read everyones answers yet, but im sure they are very deep.




What would it take you

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To stop self harming or cutting yourself?
Pure happiness.
I think thats the only thing.


What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?
I would (have) turn(ed) to something else.
I.E. Drugs and alcohol.


What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?
The fear of knowing I was going to get caught.
The simple fact that it wasnt working anymore.


What makes it worse? or triggers you?
When I quit doing other things and have time to think
about everything.
Any little misshap can trigger it.
I often purposly try and trigger it- and I know that
right there is a problem.


What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?
This question goes deeper then you know.
Its probably the reason why I brought this thread
up from the archives; thought I dont know why.
I use to cut with my friends. It was the glue
to our relationship.
And, I dont like talking about it, but my sister
did use to cut. Ive seen her scars, i've felt
her pain. When she found out I cut and my mom
thought it was her who told me to do it, we had a
few heart to hearts and though I never saw her do
anything, our talks helped both of us back then.

[recoveringcutter]

im just gonna answer one for now.

what would it take me to stop cutting??? seeing the inside of a physc ward. which i have seen. at the time we were dating i went to visit my gf who OD and she was in a physc ward center and seeing her being there made me cry. not because she hurt herself, but the fact that if i continue to go down the road i was going down, this is where i would end up if it gets worse and i do not control myself and find better ways to stop

[annihilate_me]

I think my answers might have changed entirely over the past year or so that this has been in the archives.

To stop self harming or cutting yourself?

It would take the point of realization to know that life isn't going to always be this crappy, that things will eventually get better.


What do you think would happen if for some reason
whatever reason there was no possible way you could cut/harm?

Knowing now, that I can do it, that if for some reason I want to do it, is almost pure bliss. But if there was no way in hell I could do it, I'd go crazy. Right now it's the only thing keeping me alive.


What has helped you to stop or not cut in the past?

Everything that I've said previously, but for the most part it's knowing that if I do it, I can't donate plasma to even get enough money to remotely keep myself above float.


What makes it worse? or triggers you?

Right now, it's everything. Not having a job, knowing I'm going to get evicted, being fearful to ask my parents to move back in. Not being in school, Being broke, not being able to pay back debts. Just life in general.


What if you saw your best friend or sister cutting,
how would you try and help them?

Just be there for support.