Need Advice On Anorexia

[MessedUpTeen]

Well the thing is my girlfriend has anorexia and before she acctually accepted it she tried eating one day and she threw it up without trying to. I just need advice on how to help her. Any advice will be greatly apperactied.

[Kellie]

Hi, your girlfriend is fortunate to have someone who cares for her and her well being. You can read as much information as you can about eating disorders. Education is important in understanding any disorder/addiction etc...
Is your girlfriend seeking professional help for her eating disorder.

Here are some threads here that you might find helpful and informative...

Recovery...

Ten Steps To Positive Body Image

Medical Attention for Eating Disorders~!~

http://www.soberteensonline.com/foru...=5561#post5561

Feel free to explore the anorexia and bulimia forum and let us know if you have any questions...

[MessedUpTeen]

I'm sure shes not getting professional help because when she told her mom she needed to go to the hospitial for cutting her mom said no or something like that. The other day at one of her band marching practices she had to pretty much be carried off the field because she hadnt ate enough lately. So thank you for the advice.

[sallys_scars]

im just about where your girlfriend is...
i tried to eat this big healthy iron rich meal...i threw up
you have to start out slow
her stomach cant handle all the nutrition because, like mine, its been deprived from it for so long. have her try eating just a large snack or a real small simple meal, and remember small bites
she might have to eat slow, thats what i have to do.

i hope she gets better soon,
sallys_scars

[Kellie]

prayers for your girlfriend and that she gets some help very soon...
It does not sound good.
The others will be along and they are more familiar with eating disorders and will have more suggestions i am sure... hang in there.

[MessedUpTeen]

thanks

[Done-With-It!]

Hey MT,

Good to see you. I think like Sally said, that is quite a normal reaction.
It could be physical and it could be mental or both. Your body will start to reject food after awhile.
Again like Sally said, small meals are good. I would try and stick with small solid foods. Things like ice cream, soup, or anything like that,
can backfire. If you can eat small meals with her, that will probably help her too.

You may want to suggest to her that she see a school counselor. If she's already in the middle of having anorexia, she is most likely going to need some help to get out. I personally needed ALOT of help, it's a tough thing to have.
Have you suggested having her come here? Maybe some support from others would help her?

[MessedUpTeen]

Well I can't eat small meals with her because we're a long distance relationship so I could try telling her to come here though. But I'm kinda getting worried normally shes online every night but she hasnt called or texted me at all today which isn't like her. I don't know I'm probably overreacting. But yeah I'll tell her to come here.

[Done-With-It!]

How are YOU doing? You doing alright?

[MessedUpTeen]

I'm not doing to good at all because I don't wanna sleep without knowing she's alright and I know I need some sleep because I'm going bowling tommorrow night till about midnight and I've been so tired lately and yes I may sound clingy but all I wanna know is that she's alright then I'd go to my room and go to sleep but I don't know if she's ok right now or not and I'm all nervous and I can't stop thinking that maybe she finally decided she's had enough and ended it and I'm so freaking worried about her because she's so easily triggered.

[Done-With-It!]

Sweetie, odds are she is fine. Part of anorexia is withdrawing from the world. Especially the ones you are closest too.

I would say the best thing you can do for her right now, is to take care of yourself and get some sleep. That way when you talk to her tomorow you
will be able to help her better. If you get yourself run down with worry, and get overly tired, it's not going to help her at all.

Does she live with her parents?

Tomorow you can have a chat with her about how worried you were, and remind her again that you are there for her.

[MessedUpTeen]

Well I guess you noticed but I took your advice and got some sleep and she finally got ahold of me today so I guess I was just overreacting.

[Done-With-It!]

I'm glad you got some sleep. You have a great time bowling tonight!!

No worrying, Just have fun! ;-)

[MessedUpTeen]

No matter what I'm gonna end up worrying about her some. However she's now in denial about her anorexia. She kept saying today that she doesn't have a problem and she's refusing to get help. But now that I know shes safe I won't worry about her quite as much. Thanks for helping me help her some everyone.

[Kellie]

Anytime...

STRIKE!

[ShatteredBeauty]

sweetheart, don't worry about me
i'll be fine

♥

[pedagogue]

Any update?

-p

[ShatteredBeauty]

I'll do the honors of updating...

So.. I was doing good.. eating fairly well, gaining weight then... idk what happened or triggored it but I stopped eating again... I'm down to 114 lbs.. so DWT you're right when you say "lil" sparky lol... height wise i'm huge though, cuz i'm 5'10" so... yeah idk what to do anymore i'm scared to eat, scared not to eat and i'm sick again from a combonation of not eating, overworking (school wise), over stressed, and a cold... idk wat to do I mean.. I don't want to gain weight I want to stay small but I don't like being sick n... idk I'm just so stressed out right now with marching band, a f*ck*d up knee, cheerleading, academics, our fall play.. if I make the play I have to drop cheerleading which is ok because I landed a jump and dislocated my knee which really p*ss*d my band teacher off because I had to sit on the sidelines for an entire 2 hour rehersal... Idk what to do though because if I leave the squad we'll have 4 freshman cheerleaders and they were looking forward to stunting and if they don't have enough people they won't be able to stunt I mean you can't lift someone in the air with 3 people the school won't allow it, its not safe... I just don't know what to do.. all the added stress is helping with the anorexia because i'm so stressed that I'm always moving and I usually don't have the energy to do a lot of moving but I do anyway and pretend I do and then I come close to passing out...
ok no more rambling from me..
hugs to all
sparky

[Kellie]

Hi Sparky
Good to hear from you... sounds like you have a ton of stuff going on.
Just one day at a time, that is all you need to worry about. Try to eat a little something today, something good and healthy for the temple that houses your beautiful soul. Keep sharing here, it helps to get these emotions and thoughts out.
Love & Light,
Kel

:spinadelicsmilie:

[Done-With-It!]

Brings back a lot of high school memories for me, I was always trying to please everyone and make sure I was doing the right thing for everyone else, never stopping for a second to ask what I wanted or needed. I did like the fact that it stopped me from eating also. But inside I was a miserable wreck.


Take time out for you. Ask yourself what YOU want. You only get to live these years once, you only get to cheer once or to do the play once, etc.
What do YOU want. Like Kel said, eat something healthy, small meals, take time for you. Enjoy yourself.

Keep us posted sweetie.